If tomorrow never comes

​If tomorrow never comes...and yesterday is done...will I have left my family and friends with happy thoughts of me.  Reaching seventy and watching friends and family go before me, I choose my words ever so much more carefully than before.  If tomorrow never came and my last words to any of my grandchildren were harsh, would I rest easy in heaven?  Would my parting be more difficult for them? What should I have done or said that would leave them with happy thoughts of me?   Sometimes after their terse words (today's generation I will leave there) I just look at them rather than respond.  Often I hear "WHAT" back even if I have spoken no words.
 
If tomorrow never comes - are you prepared?  That is a question I ask myself often.   That one question translates to many questions.
 
1.  What to do with me?   A firm believer that heaven waits and that the body is non-essential after death, I have instructed my children that I am to be cremated.  I have even down-to-the-dollar detail explained that elaborate preparation would not be for my benefit and they can put the money to better use.   As an avid traveler in advancing years I have instructed my children that if I should pass when overseas to "fry me" and mail the ashes home.  Do not waste money shipping a body from overseas to home when I would be cremated here anyway.   
 
I wasn't one to be "potted" in life but I do want to be potted in death.  Specifically there is a company (website:  www.thelivingurn.com ) that specializes in sapling pots for planting of ashes.  I would like to be potted in a Silver Maple Tree and planted on the family homestead.  How is that for economics and efficiency?  Perhaps a small plaque mounted on the tree with my favorite quote:  "Imagination is more important than knowledge."  Albert Einstein.
 
2.  Who to contact?  I have listed along with my will and "planting" directions the few key people to contact to notify friends and relatives.  I have many friends and relatives in South Dakota where I grew up and the same in Colorado where I have spent close to 40 years very involved in many arts and sports activities as well as a number of businesses.  
 
3.  What type of services and where?   In following with my love of theatre, I would want the Colorado service to be held at a small theatre on a Monday night which is the night most theatres are dark.    This would not be a religious service, rather a memorial where people would hopefully share funny stories and show a slide show, pictures which I may have already put on thumb drive.  Music, skits or whatever else.
 
In South Dakota where I want my potted ashes planted, I would like the service on a weekend at the Sturgis Methodist Church where I was baptized and confirmed.   I would rather people came to the service to say goodbye and not be thinking about having to donate to a memorial or to my family who will be financially covered for everything.

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