If tomorrow never comes...and yesterday is done...will I have left my family and friends with happy thoughts of me. Reaching seventy and watching friends and family go before me, I choose my words ever so much more carefully than before. If tomorrow never came and my last words to any of my grandchildren were harsh, would I rest easy in heaven? Would my parting be more difficult for them? What should I have done or said that would leave them with happy thoughts of me? Sometimes after their terse words (today's generation I will leave there) I just look at them rather than respond. Often I hear "WHAT" back even if I have spoken no words.
If tomorrow never comes - are you prepared? That is a question I ask myself often. That one question translates to many questions.
1. What to do with me? A firm believer that heaven waits and that the body is non-essential after death, I have instructed my children that I am to be cremated. I have even down-to-the-dollar detail explained that elaborate preparation would not be for my benefit and they can put the money to better use. As an avid traveler in advancing years I have instructed my children that if I should pass when overseas to "fry me" and mail the ashes home. Do not waste money shipping a body from overseas to home when I would be cremated here anyway.
I wasn't one to be "potted" in life but I do want to be potted in death. Specifically there is a company (website: www.thelivingurn.com ) that specializes in sapling pots for planting of ashes. I would like to be potted in a Silver Maple Tree and planted on the family homestead. How is that for economics and efficiency? Perhaps a small plaque mounted on the tree with my favorite quote: "Imagination is more important than knowledge." Albert Einstein.
2. Who to contact? I have listed along with my will and "planting" directions the few key people to contact to notify friends and relatives. I have many friends and relatives in South Dakota where I grew up and the same in Colorado where I have spent close to 40 years very involved in many arts and sports activities as well as a number of businesses.
3. What type of services and where? In following with my love of theatre, I would want the Colorado service to be held at a small theatre on a Monday night which is the night most theatres are dark. This would not be a religious service, rather a memorial where people would hopefully share funny stories and show a slide show, pictures which I may have already put on thumb drive. Music, skits or whatever else.
In South Dakota where I want my potted ashes planted, I would like the service on a weekend at the Sturgis Methodist Church where I was baptized and confirmed. I would rather people came to the service to say goodbye and not be thinking about having to donate to a memorial or to my family who will be financially covered for everything.